Monday, April 25, 2016

Blessed 24!

Last Monday, 18 April, I turned 24 years old. Wow. When I think I am now 24 yo, I realize I am no longer that young hahahhaa. I am an adult and it scares me coz I still feel like a little girl lol. Probably coz I am this young sister at home and still the youngest among my colleagues, so I always feel so young lol. But boy I am 24 now =O

Every year on my birthday, I always thought I had the best birthday "day" ever. 

On my 17th birthday, all my friends, full GANG, like everyone, 20 of them, gathered to surprise me despite 2 days after my bday we're gonna have national exam. 

I thought like no more year is gonna beat this year! 

But on my 20th bday, when I was in Malaysia, in the middle of the night, I was surprised by church friends. I was more surprise by the thoughts though, I am a very cheap girl, when I know someone actually thinks about me, I get so teary lol. I was surprised to see some of them as they were all coming from different areas, gathered in the middle of the night, to celebrate my birthday! I was not even on their birthday but they were all coming for me T_T.
It was like the best bday ever, and I thought no more year is gonna beat that year hahhaa.

I blogged about my 20th bday: here and here.

Every single year that's what I thought. But I was always wrong. My birthday gets better and better every year. My year gets better and better. The year is always the best year. 

Just like this year.
It has been a week since my birthday, but I still get all the birthday loves. #forevergrateful

Way before my birthday, my first birthday present arrived at my office. All the way from Korea!

It's a pretty Korean starbucks tumbler and all the sweets!! hahahaha. gomawoyo oppa!!

#The FGCC Girls
My birthday falls on Monday, but last Sunday, 17 April, my thoughtful friends were already spending their time for me. Apparently these girls have teamed up with the bf to surprise me, even though end up they were the one who got surprised instead lololol.

While I was in the church, they have already came to my room to prepare on surprising me. When we have done and I came home, they were not so prepared hahaha. But I really appreciate the thought and the time spent for me.

They even prepared a very pretty cake for me, baked by my favorite baker, Rowena from Sweet_Patisserie.


Thank you, girls - Ratna, Nia, Maria, Shelvy and Elin

#BF Fam
After the short celebration with the girls, me and bf continued our date lol. We went to watch movie and had dinner with BF Fam.
Dinner in Sushi Tei, so they gave me sushi cake!


After dinner, we went to his house to get my presents hahahaha. This year bf picked a bag for me!

And when we were admiring the bag, suddenly bf mom came and brought me a cake!!


So we had a little celebration with bf fam. Thank you T_T I am so touched by all the love T_T Bf mom had treated me like her own child and I am super grateful for that❤️
And on the real birthday itself, I received many cakes!

Cake#3 from my beloved partners who thoughtfully choose a PINK birthday cake hahhaa. They also thoughtfully picked very pretty pink presents for me. Love you guys T_T

Cake#4 also beautifully made and sent by my partners

BF sent a surprise flower in a box for me T_T thank you and love you!

Another partner also sent me a pink flower bouquet. I am a happy girl!!!

Did some photoshoot before we cut the cake hahaha

Cake#5 was even more special coz it was personally delivered to me by Nadeth, thank you dear!

A mini celebration, thanks for the love!

Cake#6 before end of the day, still received another one!

I received so much love for my birthday today, I am very overwhelmed. Thank you for having me on your thought and prayer today. Thank you for taking a little bit of your time to wish me a happy birthday. Indeed I had a very happy birthday! With the much love I received today, my only wish is to see more love being spread all over the world. There're just so much good things love can do. Like He said, "love one another. In the same way I loved you, you love one another." ❤️

The next day, I still received 3 boxes of puddings from another partner!

And also, I thought I had a secret admirer sent me this, coz this arrived without any name lololol.
But of course only my little Jenny who can think of this cute way to wish me! Miss u and love u too girl!

And a thoughtful friend, Andre who sent me this :D

#Sisters in God
At night, I had a grow class at church and my grow girls celebrated my birthday too.

Cake#7 I did not have the picture of the cake only lolol. I was actually very very sad because... the girl on the right, the one with black tshirt, she's my most fav baker, Rowena, the one I mentioned earlier.. she promised to bake a pretty cake for me (except for the one the girls order!) but she said she was busy the whole day and she was not able to bake me a cake and so they get me a normal chocolate cake instead.. T_T while I was very happy with the surprised, really, it was a surprised as I was not expecting anything- except for the cake lol, I was very sad coz I did not get her cake hahahahaha. It's like the most awaited cake!

Despite that, I was veryyyyyyyyyyyy happy and madly in love with these girls!


On Thursday, 21 April 2016, we have our community cell. Because my birthday had been celebrated on Tuesday, I did not think of anything such as my bday will be celebrated again.. hahaha.
But these lovely ladies, went beyond to make my day extra special.

After our commcell, when we wanted to go home, went to car park only to find my car was not in the place where I parked it!! I was shocked but very fast try to find my car key and luckily they did not move it too far so the alarm lock is still working hahahahahhaa. Although it feels like my life has shorten a bit lololol.



I really wanted to cry lolol. Now not because of my car, but because of their loveeeeeeeeeee, I am so touched T______________T What did I do to deserve this? Why am I so loved? T_T God blessed me much more than I deserve T_T

Thank you for showering me with love. Thank you for making me feel so loved. Thank you for letting me know that I am blessed beyond measure. They are the answers to my prayers and I really want to treasure this family 


THE MOST AWAITED CAKE lololol. AND it's so pretty!!!! It's wayyyyyyy beyond what I had expected hahahahhahaha sorry for this one I had expectation in mind lolol but she did a very great job with the pretty pink color, flowers, chocolates and most importantly the cut out of my face lololol. I am soooooooo happy and happy and happy! Thank you my dear Rowena!!!

Oh and they did not stop until there.. They actually prepared this for me and it's given to me 2 days after.. hahhahaa. They keep surprising me with their thoughts and loves and I can't even say anything anymore, except grateful to know and have them!

#SW14 Mula Mula
On Friday, ce Monce just reached Jakarta after her holiday in US. Before she went back to Bandung we met up with Nia and Ratna too.

and she got me another cake wow.

Cake#9 super pretty cake!! It's an ice cream cake with oreo filling inside!

The girls who made my uni life more colorful, who brought me closer to God, who showed me that it's possible to have non-blood-related family. My second family. <3 p="">


And lastly today I celebrated my birthday with my high school friends. Usually we'll always meet up on birthdays, but this year we've got no chance so we pull everyone's birthday and celebrated it together hahahhahaa.

Cake#10 is the cake we ordered together lololol from my fav baker of coz! Hahahhaa.

Always bring back the good old days! :D

I am very thankful. This love and blessings I got is beyond measure. Although there are some thoughts going on in my mind, but seeing these people, how much they love and care about me, I am really grateful and want to focus my love, and time, and energy to this positivity.

Time is the only thing we can't buy in this life. It's so precious as it is the only limited thing in this life. Having some people who are willing to spend their time for me, it's the greatest gift and blessing for me. I really appreciate every single time spent, every single thought given, every single prayer spoken, every single effort done. Thank you for making my day so special.

I love everyone of you here. I wish all the best for everyone of you and I wish God bless us abundantly too!! Much love!!

Monday, February 08, 2016

The Best Marriage Advice

I really like this.. This will be one of the advices I'd like to read before I get married in the future. And since I am not getting married in a month, I figured I could put this here in my blog so I can read it again when I need it haha. 

So today I saw this question in Quora. 

What is the best marriage advice you would give?

And this is the answer given by Michelle Roses. 
As someone who's been through a divorce and is getting married again, I can confidently offer this:
Love isn't enough. Marry the person who brings out your best and will stand beside you at your worst. 
Life will happen. You'll screw up. You'll fight. You'll probably even slam a few doors and say something horrible you don't really mean. 
That's what happens when we're human. We're flawed. Expecting perfection,rainbows, and glitter is unrealistic.
Whenever a couple tells me, "We never fight," I know they're in or already having trouble. 
No one can look great, have a perfect home, perfect kids, job, friends and be happy all the time. Believe me, I've tried. 
You're going to lose a job, have money problems, have a death in the family, bury a pet, lose your hair, get wrinkles, have diarrhea, vomit, forget deodorant, put your foot in your mouth, leave the seat up  and spill stuff on the sofa. 

The wedding is one day, the marriage for the rest of your lives.
I'm planning a wedding right now. I actually found my wedding gown today. It's a very exciting time and a lot of attention goes into things like dresses, bridesmaids, invitations, parties, flowers, food, music, venue, etc. 
The day you marry you look the best you'll ever look. It's taken hours of preparation and planning to look as good as we do on our wedding day, and it's all down hill from there. 
It's very exciting, but it's not your life. Life is farting in your sleep and spilling coffee on the cat. For one couple I know, once the wedding was over, there was nothing. Once they were married, they didn't get along because they weren't distracted by this big party. They had nothing to talk about.
I'm very excited to see my friends and family, throw this fantastic party, be a bride (my dress is amazing), but I'm most excited to marry the man I love. I'm looking most forward to our life together and growing old together, not the wedding.
Fight fairly.
You will fight. It's inevitable. 
  • Don't bring up the past. Last week's fight was last week. If he cheated on you 5 years ago and you forgave him, it's off limits. If she broke your favorite mug last month, let it go.
  • Don't ever use the words "you, always or never." Ever. For example, " You ALWAYS leave dishes in the sink and NEVER help out with the dog." Never? Not once? Really? And being accusatory, using "you" is an attack. Instead, try, "I get really frustrated when dirty dishes are still in the sink and the dog hasn't been fed. It would really make me more relaxed and happier if I got some help with those two things."
  • Don't talk, listen. It's so frustrating when you're talking and you know the other person is just planning his retort in his head. How can you respond if you don't listen?

You will never change or fix anyone. Ever.
If there is a behavior which needs to be changed, it must be changed by the person displaying the  behavior. No amount of nagging, pleading or threatening will make someone change. 
It is not your responsibility to change anyone but yourself. Learn to deal with this behavior or get over it. Or don't get married. Or get divorced. 
She will only change when she is willing to recognize and fix it herself.
You are two separate people and are not expected or required to think, act or behave the same way.
Be your own person. Keep your own hobbies, interests and friends. Your partner should support and encourage this, if he doesn't, you'll soon be resentful, angry and unhappy. This goes both ways. Let him go to his friend Pookie's man cave to watch the game. Use the time to do something you want to do. He should reciprocate so you have time to kick Jill's butt at tennis or read the latest issue of Wonder Woman at a Starbucks like a grownup. 
Children will change everything no matter how much you promise each other they won't.
When a couple becomes three, life will change. You can't have a tiny, stinky, loud, crying, hungry, fussy human being who will never let you sleep again living in your house and nothing changes.
You will argue about who has baby duty and why you haven't gotten to shower for three days. Your wife will be emotional, scared and may be an on-call milk service for a while. Your husband will be confused, scared, nervous, stressed and may start wearing sweatpants and old flip flops to the store.
This is all normal. Life will change, but, eventually, you'll figure out what works for you and how to sneak in romance again. 
You have to find your new normal as parents, not just a married couple.
You may not be out partying in the hottest clubs in designer clothes anymore, but you'll be so excited the baby just smiled and said, "greebo," that you'll be content to have a new kind of party involving ordering Chinese for the nth time, watching reruns of The Walking Dead and getting four solid hours of sleep.
If you're fighting constantly about something specific, solve the problem.
For example, if you argue about cleaning the house, look at your finances and figure out how to have a maid service come once or twice a month. 
If you argue about money, set up a budget or get an accountant. Restricting one partner from ever spending money reasonably or controlling the finances is not good for a marriage. 
If you fight about not having time to yourself because of your children, schedule a regular time with your partner when he can watch the kids for a few hours and you can go to the gym. Be sure to give the other partner the same opportunity.
If it's still an issue, hire a babysitter or get help from a friend.
Schedule romance and sex.
This sounds unromantic, but, sometimes, we get so busy and stressed we forget how hot we are for each other. 
Making Friday night a date night or planning to go for a walk and holding hands reconnects you. It's nice to feel special and attracted to your partner who you've only passed in the hall on the way to clean up the kids vomit or looking for clean socks.
A couple may be working, parenting and the social calendar may be full, but, taking time for your marriage and physical affection is important. It takes work.
Some things should not be shared. 
I love my fiancé and he loves me, but I don't want him to show me how much ear wax he just cleaned out and I won't show him how I can pop a zit with one hand.
He closes the bathroom door. We all know what's going on, but I don't  need to see it or smell it. I don't pluck my eyebrows in front of him. I'm not ashamed or embarrassed, but it's nice that my eyebrows are always groomed (magically.)
This isn't about shame or pretending we're perfect or hiding things from each other. It's about keeping the mystery going. 
He doesn't need to see me change a tampon and I don't want to see his belly button lint. Again, if we're sick or hurt or needed help with any of this stuff, that's different. I'd wipe my fiance's butt in a heartbeat if he needed me to. In the meantime, I'll scrub dead skin off my feet in private, thank you.  
Being married means accepting all of someone, their flaws and ugliness, not just the good parts. 
Finding the person who brings out your best and stands beside you at your worst is key.

Sunday, November 29, 2015

Belitung Trip


Last two weeks, By the time, I continue this post and finish it, it has already pass two months lololol.
I went to Belitung Island. I was very lucky as at first it wasn't me who supposed to go. I was just the replacement but nevertheless, I am grateful I can go hohoho. Gratitude is the key of more free trips u know! :p

Belitung is an island on the east coast of Sumatra, Indonesia in the Java Sea.
This is my first time to Belitung. My trip is only two days one night. I know it's a very short trip but right, spending too many days there also I don't know what to do. There's no shopping mall, no cinema, got karaoke though, and countable karaoke places.

I asked the guide what's the entertainment in Belitung, he said chilling by the beach. I figured that's pretty cool too, since we don't have that in Jakarta, and no admission fee. Just bring your own coffee and hang out with friends.

Before you go to Belitung, especially for us people who can't get disconnected, we have to know that only 3 cellular providers work in Belitung: XL, Telkomsel & Indosat.

I am using Indosat so my phone supposedly worked there, but most of the time, it didn't. The 3G I mean. The edge sucks too. So basically my phone not so working la. I suggest if you want to stay connected all the time there, you bring Telkomsel haha. My friend used telkomsel and he can even tether his to me.

Second thing you have to know, like any other island, it's very hot in Belitung! Bring your sunblock yo! I didn't get any sunburn or darker, my sunblock sf 110 lol and I only spent two days. But if you decided to spend more days and do not want to get tan, then bring your sunblock.

So I went there early in the morning, flight was at 7 AM. It took us only 45 minutes to reach there lol. I closed my eyes a while and the pilot already said we are landing soon. I joked to my boss saying that my journey to the office even took longer than we go to Belitung.

After we reached, we went to the Rumah Adat and had our breakfast there.

What's inside the Rumah Adat. haha. My boss told me to see and learn so when I wanna marry later, I know what to have for the Sang Jit day. Then I told her, nah I want modern Sang Jit, I don't need those sweets and stuffs, just give me Apple products. lololol

This is the Mee Atep that we ate, which I think it tastes like emie.

And then beach time!!!!

Actually not right away we see beach la haha, we went through quite long city journey and also boat journey.
Our first stop was Kepayang Island. Went there to have lunch! And that's my two partners in crime lolol.

The island yo

That's our boats at my back haha and yeah I brought my backpack coz I can't leave my laptop haha
Done with lunch, we island hopping and the next was to Lengkuas Island

no filter. no edit. just my cool iPhone 6. :p
It was a very pretty island. No crowd. And see the water clarity?

Me acting all like a model lololol. 

Sun, water, sky, peace, joy. 

Never thought writing this post makes me miss the island!!
And me again haha. I was wearing swimsuit inside incase anybody wonder what's that pink strap. I was prepared to go snorkelling :D which we did after this!
hehehe. snorkeling was fine. All the fishes wanted to be close to me coz I brought bread for them lolol.
Lastly we hopped to Pulau Batu Berlayar, in which, I did not bring my phone, so I only have this picture of me acting all like a model (again) :P
It was already sunset so most of the island already covered by the water.

It was actually a very pretty island too!! If you google this "Pulau Batu Berlayar" you can see all nice pictures!! Let me help u with one:

see see?? Clear sky, clear sea!
After that we went back to Pantai Tanjung Kelayang to go back to our hotel. We stayed in BW Suite Belitung Hotel.

    Address: Jalan Pattimura, Tanjung Pandan, Belitung, Kepulauan Bangka Belitung 33414, Indonesia

The next day, we went to Pantai Bukit Berahu, Pantai Tanjung Tinggi and also last check in at Danau Kaolin, before we finally fly back home to Jakarta.

Nothing much to see in Pantai Bukit Berahu. We went there to have our lunch. It was very hot too, and certain parts are under constructions so really nothing much. But I was just love being there, looking away to the beach. It felt as if I don't have any problems lol and it was just.. nice? 

After that we went to Tanjung Tinggi Island, the film site of Laskar Pelangi (Rainbow Troops).


Can I just sit here all day and daydream??? Hahaha, but it was so hot.... 
And of course I can't daydream all day. We have to move and our last stop was Danau Kaolin which I think is so amazing...... Too bad we only have like 5 minutes left lol coz our flight is boarding soon!!

No filter. No edit. It really doesn't look like some place in Indonesia!!

and bye bye Belitung!
There is a reason I actually put priority on this Belitung trip blogpost among all my trip post which I keep procrastinating lolol.

Our tour guide told us that currently Belitung started to have many visitors come to visit. However, most of the tourists are us Indonesians. Not many foreigners have started to visit this beautiful island. While many things can yet to be improved in this trip, I think this island should be considered as a short getaway destination, like our 2 days 1 night trip and also it's not that expensive :) (or so I thought?)

So I hope my post can help anyone who, by any chance, bump into this post and thinking where to spend a weekend in Indonesia!

Signing off to have some dinner.
Hopefully can come back soon to write another post!